It doesn’t require a miracle or magic… these tricks are simple and
successful for keeping your sanity on your next family holiday. With Christmas just around the corner, I've decided to share my ultimate top ten tips for a stress-free family vacation.
Wish me luck!! |
It was only today that I flew solo with two kids under-five and a
microwave (that’s a long story) from Sydney to Vanuatu. But, needless to say,
here I am, just a few short hours later, alive, un-frazzled, (un-microwaved),
writing my next feature piece, in peace. So, there’s something to be said for
that yes? Yes… and still, no.
While it may sound smug for me to say I made it un-frazzled, let me tell
you, it has taken years of self inflicted torture, travelling the globe with my
two toddlers in order to discover a few tricks of the trade that make the world
of difference.
enjoying the moment with Francesca |
It doesn’t have to be so stressful to embark on international travel
with little ones, for this kind of trip, if you do it often and you know where
you’re going. That’s all I’m going to say on that one, because I am sure I am
being hated and judged by many right now for the fact that both of my muppets
are asleep, exhausted, I have a gin and soda in hand and I can hear the waves
crashing as I type this… and I literally only spent three hours in the air to
travel direct from Sydney to the most exquisite island in the South Pacific..
Don’t hate me, just follow a few simple steps on your next holiday with the
kids, and then you’ll be so glad you decided to do that family vacation!
But, yes, admittedly, no all trips are like this. Memories flash to that
hiddeous once-and-never-again night flight to Bali with the kids when they
decided to scream like chukky until half an hour before landing. Don’t think I
haven’t been there.
My least favourite memory of travelling the globe with very small
children is one that has traumatised me for life. I experienced something of a
panic attack (for the first time in my life) while stuck in a window seat on a
flight from London to L.A. with my 18 month old daughter on my lap and the
plane was stuck on the tarmac for three hours before takeoff. Isabella decided
to experience a bout of projectile vomiting. The hostesses were, shall we say,
less than helpful, and my darling husband was blissfully unaware, busy sipping
champagne in business class after he had accepted the last minute offer of an
upgrade. I sat there, covered head to toe in vomit, unable to leave my seat or
climb over the two passengers next to me, a child screaming and convulsing as
if possessed on my lap. I actually considered pretending to be a security risk
just so I could escape this scenario. And yet, two years later, I have since
travelled a huge chunk of the world, with two kids in tow… and I’m still
married! The moments, when they do go right, of seeing the beauty of the world,
with your babies by your side, is indescribably beautiful. So, here are a few
handy ways to make that happen.
enjoying the little things with Isabella |
1.
See the
world from a kid’s perspective
Instead of stressing the entire way from start to
finish, because the kids are asking ridiculous questions, or are fascinated by
an ant when you’re trying to get them into a taxi, think again about the entire
purpose of a holiday. It is to slow down, to see things from a different
perspective and to spend quality time together, which con often mean doing
ridiculous things in your eyes, but to them, are amazing and full of discovery.
2.
Be relaxed
about all items except the passports
I spent the first two years of travel filling my
suitcases with nappies and wipes, bottles, sunblock, kid’s toys etc etc, until
I finally realized that I wasn’t travelling to the moon. Even in the most
incredibly remote tropical island third world destinations, I have always
managed to find all of these items available in shops! Leave the bulk packing
behind, travel lightly and just take your essentials. The rest you can collect
along the way.
3.
Switch off
I love arriving in foreign accommodation options
and seeing they choose not to provide a TV. Seriously, this makes me smile
every time, because it takes the pressure off me to turn the darned thing off
and force my kids to open their eyes to their surroundings and their family
members standing right in front of them. The same goes for all the travel
paraphernalia that you may be tempted to bring along. Leave the portable DVD
player at home and bring some pencils and colouring in books instead if you
really need to give them some distractions!
Look mum, i've stolen the import buggy! |
4.
Choose your
destination carefully
This applies to both the location and the
accommodation. Hotel rooms are possibly the trickiest scenario with kids.
Closed in spaces without outdoor escapes are hard. Kids sense a kind of cabin
fever. It’s also wise to choose a villa without a pool attached, if you’ve got
little ones that cant swim unattended. You wont be able to close your eyes for
a moment. Get the garden villa and then hang by the main pool instead!
If you are going to do a trip to a destination that
involves a sizeable flight, drive, train etc then I do suggest staggering the journey.
Stop overs can be some of the most rewarding moments on the trip.
5.
Embrace
your destination
Just because you’re a long way from home doesn’t
mean you can’t explore all the local kid-friendly activities, cafes, parks and
playgrounds. Think like a local and for that matter, ask the locals who have
kids the same age where they would recommend you go. The best activities are
usually the ones that suit your destination. Last week I had both my kids
kayaking in Vanuatu one day and horse riding through a lagoon the next.
6.
The transit
tricks
Just when you are most dreading the waits in
airports and the hellish in between moments getting to and from your family
paradise, think again. Many airports now fast track families with young kids.
Some airlines now even have complimentary inflight nannies! The kids meals are
really well thought out and so are the kid’s entertainment packs. And, did you
know that almost all airlines carry spare nappies, milk and other bits and
pieces for those unfortunate inflight dilemmas where parents get caught out
unprepared.
7.
Always carry
an umbrella
At least Dad loved the adventure! |
An umbrella pram, that is! They’re the ones that
cost about $30 from kmart and fold up totally flat, like an umbrella. These are
the prams that can go anywhere, don’t have to be checked in as luggage and can
even go right up to the gate of the plane with you, ready to be handed back to
you the second you step off. Oh, and if you lose it, or break it, they’re super
easy to replace!
8.
Escape the
kids
Just because you’re on a family holiday doesn’t
mean you can’t steal some moments to be grown ups, without the kids. It will
make the world of difference. It doesn’t matter how young they are, your
marriage is important, and a couple of hours of hiring the hotel babysitter is
going to give you all the more sanity to enjoy the rest of the trip. Some of
the best babysitters I’ve ever had have been the ones provided by hotels around
the world.
9.
Lead the
way
It’s so easy for us big people to forget that our
little ones are absorbing every tiny detail. If you get stressed, they get
stressed. If you’re chilled out, even when the sh*t hits the fan, then they’re
going to respond and handle challenges better too. Holidays, when families are
suddenly in each others’ pockets for bigger periods of time, are major moments
for kids to learn from our examples.
1.Leave the guilt at home
When the kids say they’re bored, or miss their
mates, or hate the place they’re at, or you’re having a massage while hubby
feeds them lunch… these are the moments when your internal voice needs to
toughen up. A family holiday is not the worst thing in the world you can be
doing to your kids. A short break away to an amazing new place is incredibly
good for them, no matter how much they whinge. For them to see you looking
after yourself in these moments is also equally as important. They can’t
respect someone who doesn’t respect themself. Keep the perspective healthy and leave
your self-doubt at the door, along with your sarong, as you climb up onto that
massage table. You deserve it!
A glass of wine always helps! |
Ps, The microwave survived the journey to our little family holiday
house, after Tropical Cyclone Pam destroyed so much, white goods are impossible
to get over there in Vanuatu! I did secretly pack it into the kid’s travel pram
bag. Those things are amazing! Sssshhhhh!!!
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